Catholic Commentary
The King Kisses Absalom: A Reconciliation Deferred
33So Joab came to the king and told him; and when he had called for Absalom, he came to the king and bowed himself on his face to the ground before the king; and the king kissed Absalom.
In 2 Samuel 14:33, King David permits his estranged son Absalom to return to his presence after years of separation, and greets him with a kiss of peace. The kiss formally restores Absalom to favor, yet the absence of David's spoken word and Absalom's confession leaves the deeper emotional and moral rift unhealed, foreshadowing future conflict.
A father's kiss can restore the outward appearance of relationship while leaving the deeper wound untouched—and Absalom's coming rebellion proves it.
Typological and Spiritual Senses
The Church Fathers, reading with the fourfold sense, see in this scene both a figure of divine mercy and a warning about its conditions. The tropological (moral) sense probes the interior dispositions required for reconciliation to be real. The kiss of David is genuine fatherly love — but love alone, without the son's authentic contrition, cannot heal the fractured relationship. The allegorical sense points forward to the Father of the Parable of the Prodigal Son (Lk 15:20), who also runs, embraces, and kisses — yet there the son has genuinely repented. The contrast sharpens the lesson: divine mercy is always offered, but it requires a receptive, contrite heart to become transformative rather than merely formal.
Catholic tradition brings several distinctive lenses to this verse.
The Sacrament of Reconciliation as its fulfillment. The Catechism teaches that the Sacrament of Penance involves four integral elements: contrition, confession, satisfaction, and absolution (CCC 1448). The scene in 2 Samuel 14:33 enacts a simulacrum of reconciliation that is missing the first three: there is prostration, but no recorded contrition; there is restoration, but no confession of sin; there is a kiss, but no penance. Catholic readers are meant to feel the incompleteness. This is not to diminish David's mercy — which is genuinely praiseworthy — but to recognize that sacramental reconciliation, unlike its Old Testament types, provides the complete medicine for the soul.
The Church Fathers on paternal mercy. St. Ambrose (De Paenitentia II) uses the image of the father's kiss as a figure of the bishop's absolution, a visible sign of God's embrace. Yet he insists that such an embrace bears fruit only when met with the son's genuine conversion. St. John Chrysostom (Homilies on Matthew) similarly distinguishes between forgiveness as an act of the one offended and reconciliation as the restoration requiring both parties.
Typology of David as Christ. Pope Benedict XVI (Jesus of Nazareth) discusses David as perhaps the most developed messianic type in the Old Testament — a king who is both just and merciful, who suffers through his children's rebellion (anticipating Christ's sorrow over Jerusalem), and whose kingdom is the throne promised to the Messiah (2 Sam 7:16). The king's kiss here prefigures Christ's welcoming of returning sinners, but the narrative ultimately shows that David, unlike Christ, cannot complete the work of reconciliation by love alone. Only the Lamb's sacrifice can make the peace permanent.
Justice and mercy held in tension. The Compendium of Social Doctrine of the Church (§206) notes that justice and mercy are not opposed but interpenetrate in God's nature. David's dilemma throughout chapters 13–14 — how to be both a just king (Amnon's murder demands redress) and a merciful father — previews the paradox resolved only at Golgotha, where God is both just and the justifier (Rom 3:26).
This verse speaks with uncomfortable directness to the experience of family estrangement — one of the most widespread and painful realities in contemporary Catholic life. David's kiss is a model of the mercy that parents, children, and siblings must extend, even when it is costly and even when the other party has not fully owned their fault. Catholic families are not called to wait for perfect contrition before extending an embrace.
Yet the narrative's tragic sequel — Absalom's revolt — issues a sober warning: outward rituals of reconciliation, however sincere on one side, cannot substitute for the hard interior work of repentance and honest conversation. Catholics seeking to repair fractured relationships are called to more than ceremony. This means creating space for the other person to name what went wrong, to make amends, and to be held accountable in love. The Sacrament of Reconciliation models the complete process: the prodigal both receives the father's kiss and has already said, "I have sinned." In family life, pastoral letters to estranged relatives, direct conversations, or the help of a counselor or spiritual director can provide the human structures that allow the deeper healing David and Absalom never reached.
Commentary
Verse 33 in Detail
The verse stands as the capstone of a carefully structured drama spanning 2 Samuel 13–14. Absalom had murdered his half-brother Amnon in revenge for the rape of his sister Tamar (13:28–29), fled to Geshur for three years (13:38), been permitted to return to Jerusalem yet barred from the king's presence for two more years (14:24), and finally — by the dramatic stratagem of setting Joab's field on fire (14:30) — compelled the king's reluctant intermediary to act. This accumulated background charges every word of v. 33 with significance.
"So Joab came to the king and told him" — Joab's role throughout this chapter is that of a broker navigating the dangerous space between a father's private longing (14:1 tells us "the king's heart went out to Absalom") and a king's public duty. Joab does not editorialize or plead; he simply delivers Absalom's message. The economy of the language heightens the gravity of the moment. We are in the world of ancient Near Eastern royal protocol, where access to the king is itself a form of power.
"He came to the king and bowed himself on his face to the ground before the king" — The prostration (*wayyishtaḥû, *the Hithpael of šāḥâ) is the full court bow, nose to the floor. This is identical language to the homage paid to God in the Psalms (cf. Ps 95:6). Absalom's gesture is simultaneously political submission and — on the typological level — the posture of a creature before its creator, a sinner before a judge. Notably, there is no recorded verbal confession here, no explicit "I have sinned against you" such as David himself utters before Nathan (2 Sam 12:13) or the Prodigal Son rehearses on his way home (Lk 15:18). The prostration stands in place of words. This silence is narratively ominous: true reconciliation requires not merely gesture but conversion of heart.
"And the king kissed Absalom" — The Hebrew wayyiššaq (he kissed) is the same root used for the fraternal kiss of peace throughout the Old Testament — Jacob kissing his sons, Joseph kissing his brothers, Laban kissing Jacob. In the royal context, the kiss is an act of formal restoration, a public sign that the sentence of exclusion is lifted. David's paternal love, so poignantly noted by the narrator in 14:1, finally finds bodily expression. Yet the narrator — conspicuously — does not record that David spoke to Absalom, nor that Absalom expressed remorse. The kiss seals an outward peace while the deeper rupture remains unaddressed. Within as few as four chapters (15:1ff.), Absalom will begin his conspiracy to steal the throne, and the "reconciliation" of this verse will be revealed as tragically incomplete.