Catholic Commentary
Right Order in Family and Speech
6Children’s children are the crown of old men; the glory of children is their parents.7Excellent speech isn’t fitting for a fool, much less do lying lips fit a prince.
Proverbs 17:6–7 teaches that grandchildren are the greatest honor and blessing of old age, comparable to a royal crown, while noble speech is inappropriate coming from a fool whose inner disorder renders such eloquence incongruous and unbecoming.
Your grandchildren are literally your crown—and noble speech spoken by a fool is a lie about who that person actually is.
Verse 7 carries a deeper sapiential logic: the Incarnate Word, the Logos, is the ultimate "excellent speech" — and it is fitting that He takes flesh not in any arbitrary vessel but in the pure womb of the Immaculate Virgin, the one wholly ordered to wisdom. The fool's unfittingness for noble speech is thus the shadow-image of Mary's perfect fittingness to bear the Word.
Catholic tradition brings distinctive depth to both verses. On v. 6, the Catechism of the Catholic Church teaches that "the family is the original cell of social life" (CCC 2207) and that "respect for parents (filial piety) derives from gratitude toward those who, by the gift of life, their love and their work, have brought their children into the world and enabled them to grow in stature, wisdom, and grace" (CCC 2215). The image of grandchildren as a crown extends this logic: it affirms that the transmission of faith across generations — what the Catechism calls "handing on the faith" (CCC 2225) — is itself a form of glory. Pope John Paul II in Familiaris Consortio (§ 16) speaks of the family as a "domestic church" whose fruitfulness is not measured in numbers alone but in the depth of love, faith, and virtue communicated from one generation to the next. Grandparents hold a theologically irreplaceable role in this transmission; they are, as Pope Francis said in his 2021 message for the World Day of Grandparents and the Elderly, "the roots" without which "the tree does not flower."
On v. 7, the Catholic tradition of the logos — word, reason, and moral order — is deeply relevant. Saint Thomas Aquinas in the Summa Theologiae (I-II, q. 113) teaches that right speech flows from right interior ordering; the fool lacks the internal form that would make noble words genuine rather than counterfeit. The Church's tradition of prudence as a cardinal virtue (CCC 1806) insists that authentic speech is an expression of integrated virtue, not a rhetorical technique. Words divorced from a life of virtue are, in the tradition's language, a form of vain speech — and vanity, the disordering of appearances from realities, is precisely the fool's disease.
These two verses together offer a quiet but demanding examination of conscience for Catholic family life and public discourse today. For families: the "crown" of grandchildren is not automatic — it is the fruit of deliberate, faithful transmission of faith. Grandparents who pray the Rosary with grandchildren, who tell the stories of their own encounters with God, who model patient virtue in old age, are actively fashioning that crown. Do not assume the next generation will simply absorb faith; it must be given, personally and lovingly, person to person across the table. For v. 7: in an age of social media, political rhetoric, and online performance, the proverb asks a pointed question — does the nobility of my speech correspond to the actual order of my interior life? Catholic tradition does not merely counsel silence for the fool; it invites conversion, so that speech may become worthy of the person God made us to be. The antidote to foolish speech is not better rhetoric; it is deeper holiness.
Commentary
Proverbs 17:6 — "Children's children are the crown of old men"
The Hebrew word translated "crown" (עֲטֶרֶת, ʿaṭeret) is consistently used in the Old Testament for a royal or priestly diadem — the most visible sign of dignity and honour. By applying it to grandchildren, the sage makes a startling claim: the greatest glory an elderly person can wear is not a title, an estate, or a reputation, but the living continuity of the family into a third generation. This is not mere sentimentality. In the ancient Israelite world, descendants were the concrete, visible fruit of a life of covenant faithfulness. To see one's grandchildren was to see that one's fear of the LORD had taken root and borne fruit in others.
The verse implicitly completes itself: just as grandchildren crown grandparents, the second half of the original Hebrew verse (v. 6b, sometimes omitted in translations) reads "and the glory of children is their fathers." The relationship is mutual. Children receive identity, formation, and honour from their parents; grandparents receive their deepest joy from seeing that formation continue. The crown runs in both directions — upward and downward — binding the generations in a single fabric of honour. This creates a deliberate contrast with the fool of v. 7: whereas the family in right order multiplies beauty, the fool disorders speech and so disorders community.
Proverbs 17:7 — "Excellent speech isn't fitting for a fool"
The Hebrew נָדִיב (nadiv), here translated "excellent," carries the sense of noble, generous, or princely — language associated with the voluntary, elevated conduct of one who has internalized wisdom and virtue. The word for "fool" (נָבָל, naval) in Hebrew is stronger than mere stupidity; it denotes moral obtuseness, the person who has deliberately closed himself off from wisdom and therefore from right relationship with God and neighbour (cf. Psalm 14:1, "The fool says in his heart, 'There is no God'"). The proverb is not saying that fools are incapable of producing eloquent sounds; it is saying that noble speech issuing from a morally disordered person is a categorical incongruity — like a crown on a corpse. The implicit positive: noble speech is fitting for the wise person precisely because their words flow from an integrated inner life.
The typological and spiritual senses
At the typological level, the "crown of old men" points toward the Church as the culmination of Israel's generations. The patriarchs and prophets find their ultimate "grandchildren" in the Christian faithful, who are — as Paul writes — heirs of the promises made to Abraham (Galatians 3:29). The Church Fathers frequently read the generational imagery of Proverbs through the lens of spiritual fatherhood and motherhood. Saint Augustine, commenting on the fruitfulness of the just, observed that the righteous person's descendants are not only physical but spiritual — those formed by their example, teaching, and prayer.