Catholic Commentary
Honor Due to Parents
27Honor your father with your whole heart, and don’t forget the birth pangs of your mother.28Remember that you were born of them. What will you repay them for the things that they have done for you?
Sirach 7:27–28 commands wholehearted honor of one's father and grateful remembrance of the physical suffering endured by one's mother in childbirth. The passage grounds filial piety in the metaphysical fact of one's existence through parents, establishing that children owe an unpayable debt of lifelong gratitude and service.
Your mother's labor and your father's sacrifice are not sentiments to feel but realities to remember — the foundational debt that shapes a life of genuine gratitude.
Typological and Spiritual Senses
At the typological level, the relationship between child and parent mirrors the relationship between the creature and the Creator. The Catechism of the Catholic Church (§2197–2200) teaches that the Fourth Commandment — which these verses interpret and deepen — "opens the second table of the Decalogue" and reveals "the order of charity." Parents participate in God's own creativity and providential care; honoring them is thus inseparable from honoring the God in whose image they act. The unpayable debt of verse 28 finds its ultimate analog in the creature's total dependence on God, whom no creature can repay but to whom all worship and love are owed.
Catholic tradition brings several distinctive lenses to this passage that enrich its meaning far beyond a simple conduct code.
The Fourth Commandment and the Order of Charity. The Catechism (§2214–2215) teaches that "the divine fatherhood is the source of human fatherhood" (citing Eph 3:14–15) and that respect for parents flows directly from the love of God. Ben Sira's phrase "with your whole heart" anticipates this theological linkage. St. Thomas Aquinas, in the Summa Theologiae (II-II, q. 101), treats piety (pietas) as a part of the virtue of justice, arguing that after God, we owe the greatest debt to our parents "who, under God, are the principles of our being." The rhetorical question of Sir 7:28 maps precisely onto Aquinas's analysis: the debt is real, it is structured by justice, and it is inexhaustible.
The Body as the Site of Gift. The mention of "birth pangs" carries weight in the Catholic sacramental imagination. The Church has consistently resisted disembodied spirituality, and Ben Sira's insistence that children remember a physical suffering is consonant with Catholicism's regard for the body as the place where love is made real and costly. St. John Paul II's Theology of the Body illuminates how self-donation in the body is the grammar of all genuine love — the mother's labor being a paradigmatic instance.
Marian Resonance. The image of maternal birth pangs carries a typological echo of the Blessed Virgin Mary, who is called to mind in Revelation 12:2 as the Woman "crying out in labor pains." The Church's tradition of honoring Mary as Mother invites the reader to see, in Ben Sira's call to remember a mother's suffering, a distant foreshadowing of the ultimate maternal gift.
Pope Francis and Synodal Care for the Elderly. In Amoris Laetitia (§§187–190), Pope Francis explicitly invokes the duty of adult children toward aging parents as a concrete demand of family love — precisely the situation Sir 7:27–28 envisions.
In an era of geographic mobility, assisted-living facilities, and digital distraction, these two verses cut against the cultural current with unusual sharpness. "Don't forget the birth pangs of your mother" is a call to hold in active, grateful memory what it actually cost another person to bring you into the world — not as a guilt mechanism, but as a practice of moral realism that disciplines the ego. Contemporary Catholics can take this as a concrete spiritual exercise: to periodically recall, in prayer or in conversation, specific sacrifices their parents made, naming them rather than abstracting them.
For adult children navigating aging parents, verse 28's unanswerable question is pastorally urgent. The Catholic response is not to calculate what is "owed" in a transactional sense, but to embrace ongoing presence, patience, and care as a form of justice and love. Practically, this might mean regular visits, advocacy in medical settings, or simply the discipline of a phone call. For those whose relationship with parents has been wounded or complicated — by abuse, absence, or estrangement — the passage still challenges: honor does not always mean unconditional approval, but it does require honest reckoning with how much of who you are passed through another person's sacrifice.
Commentary
Sirach 7:27 — "Honor your father with your whole heart, and don't forget the birth pangs of your mother."
The command to honor one's father echoes the Decalogue (Ex 20:12; Dt 5:16), but Ben Sira amplifies it with the phrase "with your whole heart" (ἐν ὅλῃ καρδίᾳ σου in the Greek). This is not incidental language. The "whole heart" in the Hebrew wisdom tradition is the seat of intellect, will, and affection — the integrated self. Ben Sira is insisting that filial honor is not a perfunctory social courtesy or a mere external observance; it must penetrate the interior life. The same totality of heart that Israel is commanded to love God with (Dt 6:5) is here directed toward the father, suggesting that the two loves — of God and of parent — are structurally and spiritually related.
The second half of verse 27 shifts focus deliberately and tenderly to the mother: "don't forget the birth pangs of your mother." The Greek word ōdinōn (birth pangs, labor pains) is visceral and unsparing. Ben Sira is not speaking abstractly of maternal love but specifically of the physical suffering a mother endures in childbirth. This is a profoundly incarnational image: the reader is asked to carry in memory a concrete, bodily act of sacrifice. The imperative "don't forget" (μὴ ἐπιλάθῃ) places this remembrance in the realm of moral obligation, not mere sentiment. Memory here is a spiritual discipline; to forget one's mother's suffering is a form of ingratitude that amounts to a moral failure.
Notably, the verse honors father and mother separately and with different emphases — the father with the full interior self, the mother with embodied, grateful memory. This dual structure reflects the ancient Near Eastern wisdom tradition's concern for both parents, and Ben Sira refuses to collapse them into a single, undifferentiated category. Each relationship has its own texture and its own corresponding virtue.
Sirach 7:28 — "Remember that you were born of them. What will you repay them for the things that they have done for you?"
Verse 28 grounds filial piety in an ontological fact: you were born of them. This is not a sentimental appeal but a metaphysical one. Your very existence — the precondition of every thought, achievement, prayer, and relationship you will ever have — flows through them. Ben Sira uses this bedrock reality to leverage the moral imperative: if your existence itself is a gift mediated through your parents, ingratitude toward them is a kind of ingratitude toward existence itself, and ultimately toward the God who gave it.
The rhetorical question — "What will you repay them?" — functions as a Hebrew wisdom device known as the unanswerable question, which silences the reader into moral awareness. The implied answer is: . No act of repayment can cancel the debt. This is not meant to induce guilt but to cultivate a spirit of ongoing, open-handed gratitude and service. The question also subtly reframes the parent-child relationship: children are, in a deep sense, , and filial piety is the lifelong, joyful effort to honor a debt that can never be fully discharged. This is the spiritual logic of honor — it is the proper response of one who has received more than they can return.