Catholic Commentary
Abandonment by Friends and Threat from Enemies
11My lovers and my friends stand aloof from my plague. My kinsmen stand far away.12They also who seek after my life lay snares. Those who seek my hurt speak mischievous things, and meditate deceits all day long.
Psalms 38:11–12 describes the Psalmist's experience of isolation and persecution, where his friends withdraw from his suffering due to ritual impurity while his enemies actively seek his destruction. This creates a devastating dual abandonment: companions passively distance themselves while adversaries actively hunt him.
In your darkest hour, expect those you love to withdraw and those who hate you to strike—and this desolation, Christ has already entered.
Catholic tradition illuminates these verses from several converging directions.
The Suffering Christ and the Whole Christ. St. Augustine's principle of the Christus totus — that in the Psalms Christ speaks both as head and as members of his Body — is essential here. The Catechism teaches that "Christ's whole life is a mystery of redemption" (CCC 517) and that he "took on the full human condition, including its extremes of dereliction" (CCC 603). These verses are not merely David's biography but a participation in the kenotic self-emptying of the Son (Phil 2:7), who did not merely accept suffering abstractly but entered the specific anguish of relational abandonment.
The Mystical Body in Suffering. Because Christ identified with this abandonment, the Church teaches that the suffering Christian is never suffering alone, even when alone. St. John Paul II, in Salvifici Doloris (§18), writes that suffering "is present in the world in order to release love" — the very love that verse 11's absent friends fail to provide. The desolation of the Psalmist becomes an invitation, for those who stand aloof, to become what the absent friends failed to be.
Nega' and the Theology of the Cross. The word nega' (plague/blow) carries in Isaiah 53:4 its fullest weight: "He has borne our nega'" — a verse the LXX and Vulgate, followed by the Fathers, read as explicitly Christological. The Psalmist's "plague" becomes, in Christ, the stripes by which we are healed (1 Pet 2:24). The abandonment of verse 11 is thus not merely pitiable; it is salvific. Catholic theology of the Cross (cf. Mysterium Crucis, Benedict XVI) sees in this isolation the condition for universal solidarity: Christ is forsaken so that no one need be truly forsaken.
Spiritual Warfare. The "snares" of verse 12 connect to the tradition of discernment of spirits. St. Ignatius of Loyola identifies desolation — the withdrawal of consolation, the sense of being abandoned — as itself a moment when the "enemy" lays snares. The two verses thus map the classic interior experience of spiritual desolation described in the Spiritual Exercises [Rules, Second Week].
These two verses speak with painful directness to Catholics who have suffered the specific wound of being abandoned by community precisely when suffering is most acute — the friend who vanishes during cancer treatment, the family that distances itself after a mental health crisis, the parish community that grows awkward around grief or scandal or failure. The Catholic instinct can be to spiritualize this pain too quickly ("offer it up") before acknowledging its reality. The Psalmist refuses that shortcut: he names the abandonment plainly and brings it before God.
Practically, these verses invite two responses. First, for those who suffer: pray this psalm as Christ prayed it, claiming the solidarity he established by making these words his own. Your desolation has been inhabited by the Son of God; it is not evidence of divine absence but the very terrain of the Passion. Second, for those who are tempted to stand aloof from another's suffering — whether from discomfort, fear, or simply not knowing what to say — verse 11 is a mirror and a challenge. The nega' that repels us in another may be precisely the wound we are called to approach. The corporal works of mercy are, in part, the Church's institutional refusal to do what David's friends did.
Commentary
Psalms 38:11 — "My lovers and my friends stand aloof from my plague"
The Hebrew me·rê·'ay (my lovers, those who cherish me) and u·meyuddā·'ay (my acquaintances, those who know me intimately) form a merism of the Psalmist's entire relational world — from closest companions to broader social circle. Both groups now hold themselves me·ne·ged (at a distance, literally "from over against") on account of his ne·ga' — a word meaning both "plague" and "blow," carrying connotations of divine chastisement (cf. Lev 13–14, where nega' describes the lesions of ritual impurity). This is deliberate. The Psalmist does not say his friends are hostile; he says they are absent. Their distancing may be partly protective (fear of contagion, ritual uncleanness), partly social (shame by association), partly the simple human instinct to withdraw from suffering one cannot fix. Yet the effect is the same as abandonment: the sufferer is left utterly alone with his wound.
This verse must be read against the backdrop of verses 1–10, where the Psalmist has already described his body collapsing under the weight of sin and divine wrath — festering wounds, a groaning back, failing eyesight. He is not merely sick; he is marked. The nega' word-choice links his condition to Levitical impurity, suggesting he is, to his community, as a leper: untouchable, quarantined, ritually excluded from the assembly. The abandonment is thus not mere social awkwardness but a kind of social death.
Psalms 38:12 — "They also who seek after my life lay snares"
If verse 11 describes sorrowful passivity (friends who do nothing), verse 12 introduces malevolent activity. The phrase mebaqshê naphshî (those who seek my life/soul) is a standard formula in the Psalms and historical books for mortal enemies who pursue someone to the death (cf. 1 Sam 20:1; Ps 35:4; Jer 11:21). The verb nāqash (to lay a snare) evokes the imagery of hunters setting traps for prey — the Psalmist is not simply disliked but actively hunted. The pairing of the two verses creates a devastating double movement: those who should protect him withdraw; those who seek to destroy him advance. He is being both abandoned and attacked simultaneously, caught in a pincer of human cruelty.
Typological and Spiritual Senses
The Fathers universally read Psalm 38 as a Psalm of the Passion. St. Augustine, in his Enarrationes in Psalmos, identifies the speaker as Christ himself — not in his divinity, but as the , Christ speaking in the person of sinful humanity which he has made his own. Verse 11 is then the voice of Jesus at Gethsemane and Calvary: disciples flee (Mt 26:56), Peter denies (Lk 22:61), the Eleven scatter. The "lovers" who stand aloof are not enemies — they are the beloved companions of the Upper Room. Verse 12 then points to the Sanhedrin, the chief priests, and Judas — the active conspirators who laid the snare of the false trial and the kiss of betrayal. The typological reading does not diminish the historical Psalmist's suffering; rather, it reveals that David's agony was a prophetic figure of the perfect Sufferer, and that Christ, by entering this psalm, consecrates all human desolation.